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| | Every Child Wants to Be a Hero |
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> | If you ask a child what he wants to be when he grows up, he will probably say something incredible: an astronaut, an Olympic gold medalist, president, even superman. |
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> | Children are not afraid to be heroes--perhaps because they do not know the difficulties and risks involved. Unfortunately, in the transition to adulthood, those around them will make sure they discover those difficulties and risks. Be it tacitly or explicitly, the reaction to the manifestation of their aspirations will be: NO YOU CAN’T. |
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< | Why people do this to them? According to Arnold, when you go against the established creeds, prejudice will compel others to oppose you and inform you of the dangers involved on the way to attaining your purposes. More surprisingly, even if your goals are within the boundaries of accepted rules, such as being a successful professional, you will still hear many NO YOU CAN’Ts. Although the origin of these negative responses will vary, many of them are directed at stopping you from doing what you are not supposed to according to your predetermined reality as measured by social class, intelligence or physical condition, among other factors. |
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> | Why do people do this to them? According to Arnold, when you go against the established creeds, prejudice will compel others to oppose you. More surprisingly, even if your goals are within the boundaries of accepted rules, such as being a successful professional, you will still hear many NO YOU CAN’Ts. Although the motives underpinning these negative responses will vary, many are directed at limiting you according to your predetermined reality as measured by such heuristics as social class, intelligence or physical condition. |
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< | Overcoming these obstacles is hard. Once you grow up and become aware of the “reality” those around you spend so much time pointing out, there is a high chance you will be have become afraid of following your original plans. You then face a crucial choice in your life: which path do I follow? How much effort should I put into it? |
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> | Overcoming these obstacles is hard. Once you grow up and become aware of the "reality" those around you spend so much time pointing out, there is a high chance you will be afraid of following your original plans. You then face a crucial choice in your life: which path do I follow? How much effort should I put into it? |
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Desire Never Dies |
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< | If an individual does not become what he wanted to be, as he made a conscious choice to play safe or because the obstacles were too great to defeat, the initial aspirations will still be there and thus the chances of becoming frustrated will be high. |
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> | If an individual does not become what he wanted to be, either because he made a conscious choice to play it safe or because the perceived obstacles seemed too great to defeat, the initial aspirations will still be there. Thus, the chances of becoming frustrated in life will be high. |
| | Sports brands are aware of this. Nike’s “Just Do It” slogan or Adidas’ “Impossible Is Nothing” address specifically this issue. President Obama also understood this when he decided to use his famous “Yes We Can” during his campaign. |
| | There Are People Who Do It |
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< | There are those few individuals who are not afraid to take on the challenge of pursuing their ideals. Martin Luther King, Jr. is a good example in his fight against racial discrimination or Mother Teresa in her crusade to help the poor in India. Examples in less transcendental areas include Vincent Van Gogh, who was not considered a good artist during his life, or Oscar Pistorius, who has no legs and runs faster than many professional athletes. There are also many individuals from poor families who studied in the best universities making great sacrifices to pay for their education. |
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> | There are those few individuals who are not afraid to take on the challenge of pursuing their ideals. Martin Luther King, Jr. is a good example in his fight against racial discrimination, as is Mother Teresa in her crusade to help the poor in India. Examples in less transcendental areas include Vincent Van Gogh, who was not considered a good artist during his life, or Oscar Pistorius, who has no legs and runs faster than many professional athletes. There are also many individuals from poor families who studied in the best universities making great sacrifices to pay for their education. |
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> | Why Doesn't Everybody Else Do It? |
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< | A common topic in the proposals of Holmes, Frank and Arnold, is fear and the need to feel safe, which kills the other basic need that we have in childhood, the desire to be heroes. People are fearful of being different and therefore rejected, of working in an uncommon or useless task, of not being good enough to achieve what they want, in sum, they are afraid of failing. |
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> | A common topic in the proposals of Holmes, Frank, and Arnold is fear and the need to feel safe. This desire for security kills the other basic need that we have in childhood, the desire to be heroes. People are fearful of ostracization and rejection, of working in an uncommon or useless task, of not being good enough to achieve what they want. |
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> | In sum, they are afraid of failing. |
| | What Does This Mean to a Lawyer? |